No matter our vast circumstances, we try to live our best lives whether it’s drinking more water, eating healthier, excelling in our careers, cultivating better relationships with loved ones, etc.  Sometimes, as Christians it’s hard to navigate living your best life and living a Godly life.  We teeter on the idea that you can’t be a Godly person if you still party or have sex but that’s not true.  Remember, you are not perfect.  You will slip up from time-to-time but those transgressions don’t make you any less Christ-like.

Listen, we can have a life but we can’t do what every else is doing.  One of my vices is drinking.  I’m not talking about the occasional, social drinking like a normal person, I mean getting lit.  When you’re in the moment, you feel great, invincible until you wake up the next morning feeling as though the Grim Reaper kissed you goodnight.  I would pray, begging the Lord to draw the pain from my head.  I’d even bargain with Him saying if He rids me of my ailment, I’ll stop drinking.  Some aspirin, greasy food, and a jug of water later I was healed and ready for the next turn up.  It wasn’t until the last time I was drunk that I realized my lust for the overconsumption of alcohol wasn’t healthy for me physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  I wanted to make a change but how?  I started by seeking something different of the Lord.  Instead of asking the Him to make me feel better, I’d request that he’d turn off my desire to drink all together.

Have you ever asked God to turn off your worldly desires like a light switch?  The Lord gave us free will for a reason. He doesn’t want to control us, He wants us to actively choose Him.  Jesus is who we strive to mirror but we will never be perfect.  Rather use Him as a guide of how we should live.  It’s all about making mistakes and learning from them.  Seeing what we did wrong and make it right.  These mistakes don’t indicate your lack of seeking a Godly path; it shows that you are growing in your understanding of what this walk will look like for you.  Don’t become weary at the mistakes you will make as these changes don’t happen overnight.  To put into perspective, I still drink but I don’t do it as often or consume as much.  When I do drink, I practice self-control and limit myself to 2 drinks. Developing a sense of self-control during any transitional period will make things a bit easier.

1 John 2:15-17 says 15 “Do not love the world or anything in the world.  If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.  16 For everything in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and pride of life-comes not from the Father but from the world.  17 The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.”  To reiterate, this life is so temporary but in Christ we have eternal life.   Are you willing to risk losing something long-term over a short-term pleasure? Not I. But I get it, it’s temping. We can enjoy the things of the world without making idols of them.

Remember, everything that glitters ain’t gold, gold plated at best.


Something to think about…

  1. What is your secular vice?
  2. What steps have you taken to dispose of said vice?
  1. Anthony Barnes 9 months ago

    I definitely teeter between church and secular life and often find myself in the dilemma of feeling like I pray to much for the wrongs in my everyday life instead of using better judgment. .This article is a great read!!!!!

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      Cherish Barksdale 9 months ago

      I’m glad you enjoyed the article!

      I encourage and challenge you to tap into your discernment. A good place to start, take into account how things seem to be prioritized in your life. Do you put so much weight on things that really don’t matter in the bigger scheme of things? etc

    • David Jordan 9 months ago

      I know that I put too much weight on things that don’t matter sometimes. I think that’s because I am a “fixer”. I spend too much times fixing things that was just meant to be broken.

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